The ever-eloquent Elizabeth Foss has posted a beautiful reflection today that every wife should read.
The advice in all of those books ran along the same lines: keep a well ordered home; be a cheerful helpmeet; be tuned in to his need for physical affection. I’ve read volumes on submission and volumes on traditional roles. Lots and lots of good advice.
In the past few weeks, though, I’ve reflected on those messages and found them lacking. To be sure, I believe we honor the men who provide for our homes by making them cheerful havens of peace and good cheer. I’m all in favor working alongside our men. And I’m a staunch believer in following his lead where hobbies and spare time pursuits are concerned. I think the physical gift of marriage is one of God’s greatest blessings for a married couple. The advice in those books is solid. The action items are noble ones. The sum total of those actions, however, do not make one a good wife.
I know that bed rest has been a heavy cross for Elizabeth to bear; but I am so very grateful that she is willing to share the lessons she learns during her times of trials with the rest of us so that we too may grow in our understanding of our vocation as wives.